The “Wrong” Way I Asked Questions
The desire to live in a tiny house has introduced me to several blogs and books about simplicity over the last year. I’ve found myself motivated like never before to actually do something about my clutter: get rid of it! Not all of it, but enough to make a difference in my life.
Paying off $25k in student loans has been easier for me than getting rid of clutter. Part of that was because of Dave Ramsey’s baby steps and the mindset I’d been raised with. So, using what I’ve read about clutter as well as the discipline I learned from getting out of debt, I developed seven baby steps to a clutter-free life. This includes not only clearing the clutter in your home but also that in your schedule (and by default, your mind).
The reason decluttering never worked for me before is because I didn’t have a clear picture of where it would take me. I didn’t know where I would end up. Would the clutter just reappear? Would I end up with an empty room, wishing I hadn’t given away items that held precious memories of loved ones? Where’s the reward for all the hard work? These weren’t necessarily the wrong questions to ask, but I asked them in the wrong way. I asked these questions expecting the answers to be “Yes.” “Yes.” and “Nowhere.”
I needed to realize that I may always battle clutter at some level, but it won’t always be as difficult, intense, or time-consuming once I develop good habits and finish one round of decluttering. Once I asked those three questions in the right way (out of hope rather than fear), I was able to find that the answers could be “No.” “No.” and “Everywhere.”
The Reward I Wanted to See
In the seven steps I created, the goal and result is to have more time and space for what I love. This includes (but is not limited to):
- people (family, friends, strangers)
- creative hobbies (painting, crocheting, quilting, building shelves out of pallets)
- travel (adventures, relaxing vacations, mission trips)
- gardening (planting and tending to trees, vegetables, and flowers)
If that’s the result of taking the time now to get rid of what I don’t use or love, then it is worth it! The rewards are everywhere: in my house, in my thoughts, in all the great things I’m able to do and see.
And so I’ve been following my baby steps for a few weeks and am on the second step. I’ve already donated four storage bins of stuff not to mention all the paper I’ve gotten rid of. My decluttering has never made a difference this noticeable.
Decluttering has brought me so much freedom, and having a plan and an end in mind keeps me from giving up.
So I want to share this freedom and clarity with others. But before I spend time making videos and blog posts about it (time I could spend meeting other goals), I want to know what you want to know.
What You Can Do to Help
I realize not everyone has time to read through a bunch of books and articles searching for brilliant ideas that apply to them. It’s fun for me, but even I get overwhelmed and distracted by all the information out there.
I know you barely have enough time to declutter much less figure out the best way to go about it. That’s why I want to save you precious time by doing the research for you.
I don’t want to waste my time answering questions no one wants to know about. So if you have a question about clutter or want to know more about the baby steps I’m developing, please take a couple of minutes to fill out this short survey. (All questions are optional except the first one.)
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