“You know books weigh a lot. And the military only pays for a certain amount of weight to be moved.”
That’s what my sweet fiancé said to me, a girl with an English degree, when we started moving my stuff to his house. (But it’s okay because everything else I move will be lightweight.)
I originally started this blog with the goal that before my 30th birthday, I’d own a tiny house.
Well, now I don’t need a tiny house, and I won’t be living alone in the house I move into before I turn 30.
I’m so grateful I won’t be dragging nearly as much stuff into my marriage as I would’ve had I gotten married just three years ago.
Even though there’s more I want to get rid of, I can easily do that along the way.
Now that I’m not a packrat, I have a better idea of what I like and use. I have fewer things for us to argue about. And I won’t be instantly making our lovely home look like a pigsty when I finish moving in.
Knowing that cleanliness levels can be something many couples get annoyed at each other for, I’m glad I’ve gotten to where our standards match up a lot better.
And I’m excited to reap the benefits for years to come.
We’ve now got over $150 in store credit at used bookstores from books we’ve gotten rid of. One of the things I love about my fiancé is that he enjoys reading, so now we’re able to buy books we’ll read together and it hardly costs a thing.
While I’m grateful for all the little things decluttering has helped me with…
- being focused
- practicing discipline
- having space for important projects
- being free from the concern and care of so many possessions
- gaining new skills and interests
…those aren’t the main benefit I’ve gotten out of decluttering, although they greatly contribute to it.
The biggest reason I’m glad I stopped being a packrat is because of how it affects my relationships.
I meet so many amazing people that I get to teach about how to declutter, and I’ve learned from so many cool people that I never would’ve met otherwise.
I’ve given space back to family members whose houses my stuff had taken over.
Most of all, as I look at the ring on my finger, I’m so glad I got rid of items from my past to make room for new joys, new memories, and new people in my future.
Today’s Task: Try filling a grocery bag with items to get rid of, and think of how decluttering will slowly improve your relationships over time.